Introduction:

In this direct, common sense book the author provides a comprehensive look at the difference between the two types of relationships, the positive ones and the negative ones. What is key is that the difference is binary. The most significant innovations provided are first, the foundations for resolving differences between couples, secondly, an exhaustive look at the differences between disagreements and arguments, and finally, a detailed yet simple look at the psychology of the mind, a mind that is capable of thinking. The goal is a simple one. How do couples find the path to happiness?!

Most significantly, the book describes in excruciating detail the working of the mind, the depth and simplicity of which are not found in any other book written about relationships. This sad fact is most astonishing because common sense would tell the reader that books written by psychologists would include the functioning of the mind. Unfortunately, the prejudices of the psychology industry actually include the belief that the mind is nonexistent.

Secondly, the book breaks down the aspects of disagreements versus arguments so that the reader can understand how to keep the different perspectives of the couple on the plane of disagreements. Again, disagreements are logical while arguments are emotional. In addition, the fundamental elements of the argument are discussed, what has been termed The Hierarchy of the Argument. Again, this concept is something not found in any other books written on relationships. In books written by marital therapists arguments are an assumed part of every relationship. And finally, the book provides a platform for resolving disagreements: common sense, something that was discovered by the greatest psychologist who ever lived, Dr. Carl Jung, as a most significant component of all of our minds. And yes, this concept is also not found in other relationship books.

Overview:

Book’s Table of Contents

INTRODUCTION

I THE ORIGINATION OF THE RELATIONSHIP

1. The Waltz of Love
2. The Positive Relationship
3. Foundation of Happiness: Morality and Equality

II FOUNDATION OF THE RELATIONSHIP: COMMON SENSE

1. Common Sense Defined: Thomas Paine
2. Faultfinding vs. Problem Solving
3. The Individual: Character vs. Behavior

III THE FORK IN THE ROAD

1. Disagreement vs. Argument
2. The Feelings of Faultfinding
3. Hierarchy of the Argument

IV THE DEVELOPMENT OF THE MIND: THOUGHTS & FEELINGS

1. Thinking: History of Education
2. Example of Development of Thinking
3. Example of Development of Feelings
4. Example of Falling In Love
5. Salvaging a Relationship: The Letter

V PSYCHOLOGY: BIOLOGY OR PSYCHOLOGY

1. History of Mainstream Psychology
2. Mainstream Psychology Today
3. Dr. William James Hypothesizes Thinking
4. The Greatest Psychologist Who Ever Lived: Dr. Carl Jung
5. Dr. Carl Jung: Discovers His Mind
6. Dr. Carl Jung: Influence of School
7. Dr. Carl Jung: Cures Psychiatric Patients
8. Dr. Carl Jung: Interactions With Freud
9. Dr. Carl Jung: His Journey Into His Mind
10. Dr. Carl Jung: His Greatest Discoveries
11. Dr. Carl Jung: Comparative Analysis of the Unconscious
12. Conclusion
13. Dr. Jeff Schwartz & Colleagues: Scientific Proof of Thinking

VI A PSYCHOLOGICAL SOLUTION: COGNITIVE CHARACTER THERAPY

1. Transference Causes Divorce
2. The Ultimate Sources of Insecurities
3. Additional Sources of Insecurities

VII WHY? WHY SHOULD RELATIONSHIPS WORK?

1. A Secular Perspective
2. The Significant Perspective

VIII FINAL THOUGHTS

A. APPENDIX